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In this YouTube video,we explore a real-life example of a couple who attended mental health consultations to address challenges in their marriage. They were thrilled with the results. By sharing their example, they hope to provide guidance to other couples facing similar issues.

Here’s an overview of the steps we followed in our sessions:

Initial Session with the Wife:

The wife sought help, explaining that her anger was severely impacting their marriage.

She described her husband as a good person who never shows heightened emotions.

She expressed feelings of disconnection, frustration, and noted that she often resorted to screaming, shouting, and even breaking things at home.

She acknowledged her husband’s love but felt unloved and disconnected, as he mostly spent time watching TV, on the phone, or gaming.

She struggled to communicate these feelings to her husband as conversations often escalated.

Joint Session with the Husband:

The husband was unaware of what triggered his wife’s anger and felt clueless about how to respond.

He admitted to spending a lot of time on screens but didn't know how to connect with his wife without causing conflict.

Both were initially reluctant to involve a third person in their marriage but decided to seek professional help due to the severity of their issues, which had begun to manifest as physical symptoms like sleeplessness, skin infections, gut issues, and palpitations.

Structured Venting and Communication Exercises:

In combined sessions, the first step was to allow the wife to vent her frustrations but focus on one specific event at a time.

Initially, she struggled to stick to one event, often jumping to past or future issues. We guided her to stay in the present moment.

The husband listened without interrupting, even if his version of events differed.

We transformed her statements into "I think" and "I feel" statements, ensuring accuracy by having her correct me when needed. This was challenging initially but improved over time.

Role Reversal and Empathy Building:

Once the wife’s narrative was clear, we repeated the process with the husband for the same event.

This allowed both partners to hear each other’s perspectives without making assumptions.

Progress and Independence:

After working through 5-6 events in this structured manner, the couple was able to navigate the 7th event independently.

The goal was not to eliminate conflict entirely but to learn how to navigate and resolve it effectively.

The key to their success was their willingness to work hard and learn. They avoided rushing to solve things, refrained from blaming and shaming each other, and no longer feared conflicts or disagreements. This process brought them closer and more connected.