So I Don’t Ever Forget Some Essential Pieces "

S: Spiritual Intimacy

I: Intellectual Intimacy

D: Domestic Intimacy

E: Emotional Intimacy

F: Financial Intimacy

E: Experiential Intimacy

P: Physical Intimacy

Emotional Intimacy: When two people can openly express their feelings about any topic, including each other, without blame or shame. This is the toughest part, as many of us are still learning to express feelings authentically and take full responsibility for our words and actions during emotional moments. It becomes more challenging when the two partners have learned different coping mechanisms, such as one avoiding emotional discussions while the other needs constant validation.

Intellectual Intimacy: When two people can engage in conversations about various topics, exchanging thoughts and ideas, exploring different viewpoints with curiosity and respect. Both partners enjoy spending time discussing things, even if they don’t always agree. Neither gets defensive or offensive; instead, they appreciate the differences, with one partner not feeling threatened by the other's perspective.

Physical Intimacy: When two people feel comfortable with each other and their own bodies. This includes little gestures like hugs, kisses, holding hands, or lying on a shoulder or lap—any form of physical closeness that feels safe and comfortable for both, even without sexual intent.

Sexual Intimacy: The unique intimacy that distinguishes a marriage or romantic relationship from other relationships. However, if the other intimacies are lacking, sexual intimacy can become difficult. Discussing sexual needs or desires remains challenging for many due to the embarrassment around this topic. This also includes dealing with discomforts, understanding one's views on sex, and recognizing where and how we learned about our bodies.

Domestic Intimacy: Involves the shared management of daily responsibilities, including dividing household chores, collaborating on parenting, handling finances, and coordinating schedules. This intimacy requires teamwork and problem-solving, ensuring both partners contribute to the smooth functioning of their shared life.

Financial Intimacy: Where both partners are involved in joint decision-making about spending, saving, and overall financial planning. They can discuss financial issues openly, regardless of income differences, and agree on budgeting, saving, and planning for the future.

Experiential Intimacy: When both partners enjoy making memories together by engaging in activities like traveling, cooking, reading, watching movies, or creating things. Even if one partner isn’t particularly interested, they support each other in experiencing what the other enjoys, fostering shared interests and genuine interest in each other’s experiences.

Spiritual Intimacy: Involves shared beliefs, values, or practices such as attending religious or spiritual services together, meditating, or discussing the meaning of life. It’s about connecting on a deeper level that transcends physical and emotional aspects, fostering a profound bond between partners.