“Research says that” seems to be the new fad; nevertheless this too is based on a lived experiences of several beautiful souls.
If you have survived abuse ,then , these are 10 thoughts that might help you survive the recovery....
1.Abuse is not always about forced physical/sexual contact. It is much more complicated and sometimes confusing- Stop hurrying the healing process. Healing will be slow but sure. 
2.The minute you have broken the silence, believe that the recovery has begun even if you may feel more abused initially.
3.Stop justifying/explaining your story to every T, D and H 
. Those who understand do not need explanations and those who do not understand, will not , despite any amount of explanations. It is not about you, it is about them.
4.There’s a Burmese saying “If a thorn falls on a leaf, the leaf is pierced. And if a leaf falls on a thorn, it’s still the leaf that’s pierced.” The victim is like the ‘leaf’ and the abuser like the ‘thorn’ irrespective of one’s gender, age or position. I have come to believe that abuse is not a one gender issue. It is about a personality issue. One could move from one thorn to another unless we stop being the ‘leaf’ OR continue being the ‘leaf’ and recognize the ‘thorns’ well enough to stay away. While it is not easy – it is possible.
5.You need to develop this bad habit of forgiving people who are not even sorry by accepting the sorry you never got and will never get. It is not that bad a habit after all.
6.The abuser, usually being a trusted person, will continue to have the trust of many within your family and friends. Hang around with the ones who trust you and if there is none – take pride in standing alone for what is right. But also know you are never alone – abuse is prevalent more than you can imagine
7.Be prepared to be misquoted and judged by your far and near. If the healing has a graph it would be the most irregular one - But remember - the worst is over.
8.Take one day at a time. People will rip your dignity apart but that should not make you spread negativity and bitterness of your experience around because energy flows where attention goes. You need positive energy.
9.Reach out to others, teach, write, and talk about abuse so that nobody suffers in silence thinking “It’s just me”! or "It's my fault"!
10.And finally to all the beautiful souls who are silently struggling – I am with you “unconditionally” as I understand the meaning and importance of that word – Break the silence.
Believe the world is still a beautiful place to be – Because – It truly is!
