However, the man most often gets the label of being "toxic", "narcissists" or any other. These labels end up villainising the person and not viewing the person as someone who needs help. When a "Diagnosis" brings nothing but blame and shame to oneself, it gets incredibly difficult to accept it and seek help. When these terminologies are not used with compassion all we achieve is segregate and they will continue to cause harm to oneself and others when left without being helped.

How does Patriarchy affect the Men? Most continue to function with the mindset of being the protectors and providers and hence find "connection" so difficult. Emotional connection requires shedding the shield of "protection" and being able to sit with the discomfort arising from one's own emotions and let go of the need to protect oneself or another from emotion and allow it to be released from the body.

Is it a neurological wiring difference in the brains of MEN and WOMEN or is it the generations of conditioning that influence genetics too? This conditioning has not taught many MEN to connect with their own emotions let alone sit with others. This conditioning makes them live an entire life shielding themselves from the discomfort of emotions such as anxiety and sadness by wearing the mask of "anger- fight" or "indifference -flight". How can we support them and re-teach?

Let us continue to Think and Re-think and not get stuck with the labels.

WATCH LINK HERE : On how to A.V.O.I.D an escalation and be emotionally available for your partner.